Monday, February 9, 2026

In Memoriam

It's been a tough week here in the fictional Duchy, as well as in The Real World. My father had a bad fall, which resulted in hospitalization. Unfortunately, the combination of injury and age and other health issues was too much for the man and on Saturday evening, he passed into the next world, to be with my mother, who passed away in 2002. 

Frederick Peter Turner

10 June 1943 - 07 February 2026

My father was a pharmacist and also taught high school physical science, biology, and chemistry. He moved to Chelmsford as a young man in 1955 and graduated from Chelmsford High School in 1961. 

Graduating from the Massachusetts College of Pharmacy, he later earned a Master's in Education from Fitchburg State College, whilst simultaneously working a full and a part time job and helping to raise my younger brother and myself. 

After my mother passed away from cancer in 2002, he later met and married Laurie and built a second life, still in the same house he had bought in 1970. Needless to say, he had some quirks and one of them was the house I grew up in... 

After a forced retirement, despite being an intellectually active person, he languished and unfortunately did not do well in that part of his life. A few years ago, he was diagnosed with the onset of Alzheimer's and dementia. The last three years saw a progressive decline and more and more medical issues rob him of his health. 

I spoke to him Sunday, the day before he fell, making my usual Sunday noontime call. We had a very pleasant chat and he was able to tell me how happy he was that I was doing well and that he loved me.

My own love of history, reading, and learning comes directly from him. He never properly understood my wargaming hobby, it rather bemused him. But he appreciated the work I put into my figures and such. He always enjoyed my telling about battlefields I walked. 

I miss him terribly already. 


12 comments:

  1. My condolences on the loss of your father, Eric.

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  2. My sincere condolences Eric. May your memories of him bring you joy.

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  3. Sorry to read this Eric but the last few years must have been hard on you too, dementia etc is a particularly unpleasant side effect of aging for some people.

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  4. So sorry to hear that, Eric. My condolences to you and your family.

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  5. My condolences to you and your family Eric, the pain will ease with time.

    Willz.

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  6. So sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences to you and your family. Keep the good times in mind.
    Brian

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  7. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss but so glad you were able to speak with him recently

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  8. I'm so sorry, Eric. May his memory be a blessing. I'm glad he passed on much to you.

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  9. I'm sorry for your loss.

    Its been 23 years and change now since my dad passed away. All of us 'kids' had ended up in the Maritimes and my parents were still in Montreal with all sorts of problems including alt. After taking turns to take vacation to go look after Dad when Mom was in the hospital, we kidnapped them as it were and moved them into a mobile home on my brother's lot and things got better but eventually Mom got a little better but Dad's Alzheimer's got worse and we had to place him in the Veteran's hospital. I drove up the next day to visit. He was happy to see me but he had trouble finding words but eventually he managed "being here...reminds me... of where I'm not".

    A few days later he gave it up but he's not forgotten and still gives me advice from time to time from the store of things he put in my head.

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  10. Eric, I am so sorry to hear the news about the passing of your father. I am sure that you have many good memories of your Dad that will always be with you.

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  11. Very sad news, my condolences to you. As others have said, keep hold of the happy memories and he will live on with you.

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